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A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience; with a raised glass of water, and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or half full?'..... she fooled them all... "How heavy is this glass of water?", she inquired with a smile.
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.  If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "and that's the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.  When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night... pick them up tomorrow.

Here is another post organized by the friend who interviewed me.  It's very nicely put together, though you guys may enjoy it.  It shows someone is better writer than me. (LOL)  If you were interested in her writing, check her out on soulspiration

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So in my next interview segment with Joanne, I asked her if “doomsday” is actually just around the corner.  For those who are still not aware; briefly, the end of 2012 supposedly marks the end of the world according the ancient Mayan calendar.  Many people are curious if this is true.  In fact, books and movies have been released just on 2012.  So I had to ask her to dispel this fear.

Here is another post Christian shared with me, and I thought it's interesting enough to share with you all. 
41 Things I've Learned By 40
http://thomsinger.blogspot.com/2006/06/41-things-ive-learned-by-40.html (Original Post)
41. Don't worry too much about what others think about you.
40. Everyone has an ego. Tread lightly as to not bruise them.
39. Nothing produces results as much as taking action.
38. Don't gossip. What you say will always find its way back to the person.
37. People do business with people they know and like.
36. Jealous and petty people are just part of life.
35. Say "please" and "thank you". It will make you stand out from the crowd.
34. When you need help, ask someone.
33. Having written goals is an important step you achieving your dreams.
32. Over using credit cards will stall your financial future.
31. A supportive spouse is worth her weight in gold, and then some.
30. A true friend is excited for you about any event that makes you happy.
29. True friends are rare and should be cherished.
28. No job is secure. Have a "plan B"
27. Always find the best in other people. Do not focus on their flaws.
26. You are not what you drive or what you wear. Do not judge others by their cars, clothes or zip code.
25. You are a "brand". No matter what you do it impacts your reputation.
24. Luck does not happen by accident.
23. Start saving money when you are young. 10% of your income should always go to your 401K.
22. Dedicate time to think about your future. Know what success looks like.
21. You cannot love your kids too much!
20. Treat everyone with respect. You never know when they might circle back into your life.
19. If you are not knowledgeable about wine...Don't fake it.
18. Be-friend your competitors.
17. Regardless of your political beliefs - attend a presidential inauguration once in your lifetime. The whole thing is very cool.
16. Find a mentor.
15. Be a mentor.
14. Staying physically fit gets harder as you get older. But do it anyway.
13. You do not have to be smart to be successful. Tenacity trumps intelligence.
12. Having a strong network of professional contacts is the best career safety net.
11. Read a lot of books, magazines, websites, blogs and newspapers. Knowledge is power.
10. Writing a book is hard work. Promoting a book is harder work.
9. Develop your public speaking skills. Join a Toastmasters group and participate actively for two years.
8. There is no substitute for integrity.
7. Have friends who challenge you to be a better person.
6. If you know someone who wrote a book, read it. The biggest compliment you can give an author is to read what they wrote.
5. Helping others always comes back to benefit you.
4. Find a good lawyer, accountant and banker before you need them.
3. Learn to cook.
2. Opportunities exist. You just have to look for them.
AND THE NUMBER ONE THING I HAVE LEARNED:
#1 - Those who have achieved REAL success in life (financially, emotionally and spiritually) will never criticize your dreams and aspirations. Instead they will look for ways to share their own experiences to help lift you up to higher levels. Successful people are rarely jealous and welcome the achievements of others.
As with all free advice....remember, you get what you pay for.
Have A Great Day.
Thom Singer
www.thomsinger.com
thom@thomsinger.com

Interesting plurk from Sersinee K, thought I share with you all.
 

Some note I read on facebook.  Interesting. thought I share with you all. 
 
The Rules for Being Human
1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.
2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a fulltime informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works."
4. A lesson is repeated until learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive there are lessons to be learned.
6. "There" is no better than "here." When your "there" has become a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."
7. Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie inside you. The answer to life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
10. This will often be forgotten, only to be remembered again.
(Cherie Carter-Scott)

Here are some questions about dreams from a friend who was working on a more descriptive post.  I am sure her post will be more detailed than mine.  But though I share with you all now since I am too lazy to type again.  But do check on her post later when it is on.  Soulspiration
 

1. so is there such a thing as just a dream? i'm sure have many dreams in one sleep.  Do they all signify something?

There is such a thing as just a dream . which often occurs when you heard or saw something that trigger your curiosity that make you want to find out more about that.  In that case, you sense will be wondering around to gather similar information to feed your need when you are asleep. 

 
1(a), regarding your accesing your database dreams, since it's not a life lesson or message so to speak, is it more like resolving past life issue so that feeling doesn't always resurface. or so that your soul can heal fr it? 

not resolving, but reminding.  you subconscious will often pull out one of your similar memory to test what you will do any different as current identity.  Sometimes, we will find out a different way to deal with the same fear, which later one will be able to apply on their 'REAL' life.  Past life Issue don't occur unless it was triggered in your real life.  and yes, if you figure out a way or some sort of understanding, through practicing it in life, you can always heal from it. 

 
2. many of the dreams you say are influenced by our spirit guides.  but the way the dream plays out seems so dream-like.  why is it that the guide or any dreams containing messages need to be in a dream-like setting?
why can't they talk to us and have us see them for who they are or in their setting? (why does it have to be so mysterious?)
why can't the dreams be more straight forward?

Human often asked for 'easy answer', but lack of skill to execute it or apply it into their life.  It's easy to forget what was told, but you will never forget it if you learned it yourself.   and that's why most of spirit guide planned life for a soul to 'figure it out', rather than 'told what to do'.  people who  don't want to figure thing out, often contain a personality of not wanting to work for themselves.  which, is definitely one of the biggest task they have to overcome as soul.  So the dream is not often 'mysterious' but rather require your sensation, logics and heart to work with one and others.  you just have to know your own stuff and understand your own sensation, you will then be able to identify what is what and make a judge of yourself.  

 
3. how bout remembering your dreams?  sometimes, i feel i'm in a such a deep sleep, i wake up and i forget the dream? u said before that if thats the case then we'r not meant to rmember them? is that the only case?

This is something that happened yesterday. 
during the lunch time while everyone was sitting on the dinning table and ate our lunch, Christian happened to read a piece of papper from the folder Max brought home day ago.