Ruowen Huang

I have recently cleaned up my closet and found a lot of sweat shirt for the charities.

Those are the shirt I wore a lot when I first had a baby, but no longer wear them any more...

最近在整理衣服的時候,看到以前常穿的Sweat Shirt(就是美國大學生常在穿的那種寬鬆上衣)

有一陣子因為剛生完小孩, 餵奶方便又舒服,我還挺常穿這種寬寬鬆鬆的上衣.

只不過,因為很久沒有穿這種衣服了, 所以決定他們全部捐給慈善機構去做慈善.

As I look through all those "baggy" close,

It got me wonder...

There are lot of people like to wear the clothes like this, because they are " comfortable".

But realistically speaking...

"Comfortable'  is quite a dangerous word.

We tend to over fed ourself wearing "comfortable" cloth, and not knowing when to stop.

Eventually, our maybe a little bit bigger waist become totally over weight.

When we soaked ourself in the comfort zone, we also gradually start to dislike ourselves.

We start to dislike our figure that always hiding in the "comfortable" clothing.

and we start to dislike ourselves in every angles.

只是,看著那種寬寬鬆鬆的衣服,不禁讓我突然想起來...

其實很多人喜歡穿這樣衣服, 因為它們穿起來很..."舒服".

但我仔細想想...舒服這兩個字,還真是個危險的字.

穿起來舒服的衣服,會讓我們不小心暴飲暴食,

對自己的飲食不夠節制,

導致於本來還只是微胖的身材"不小心"過胖.

慢慢地, 人們從舒服的環境中, 漸漸地討厭起自己.

討厭那長期躲在舒服下的身材,

然後不自覺地開始討厭起每一角度的自己.

There are lot of people start to feel comfortable in the relationshipi,

so they don't even bother to go to the movie in the weekedn.

They do not go to the restaurant for a romantic meal, rather than staying at home for food in order to "save some money"

Because...

It's more "comfortable' to stay at home!

Eventually, this kind of comfort became the act of indifference.

We start to feel that He/She doesn't care about us any more.

We start to believe that no body love us, or we are not worthy...

As deep as we soaked ourselves in this comfort zone, we start to dislike ourselves, dislike others...

很多人在感情的路上開始覺得舒服,

周末的時候電影也懶得去看了,

吃飯能在家吃就別大老遠的出門,

因為,待在家裏比較"舒服"

慢慢地,這種舒服成了一種漠不關心地舉動,

我們開始覺得自己不被對方重視,

開始覺得自己不再被愛,

慢慢地,過度沈浸於舒服裏的我們,開始討厭自己,也討厭對方.

Some people think it's quite a enjoyment sitting in the couch drinking beer.

So they wouldn't force themselves to go outside, nor do some exercise,

Slowly, the comfort create a rim of beer belly,

they start to complain their wife has been cooking too greasy, not knowing anything about eating healthy.

有人覺得躺在沙發上喝杯啤酒是件舒服的事,

所以不會勉強自己去做運動, 到外面走走.

以致於慢慢地養了一圈的脾酒肚,

卻反過來怪自己的老婆煮得太油,不懂得養生之道.

Some people think reading and surfing internet is quite a "comfortable" thing to do.

and not wanting to spend time and energy with family.

nor communicating with the other half.

Slowly, we start to feel that the other do not know anything about us,

Home is quite a stressful place to come back to...

有人覺得回家上網,看書是件舒服的事,

但卻不想浪費時間與精神在家人,

與另一半的溝通上,

慢慢地,我們覺得他們不夠了解我們,

覺得家是個充滿壓力的地方...

Someone found a comfort zone in work situation, and no longer want to improve themselves in any thing.

When the moment their name has been shown in the "laid off" list,

They only complain about how their boss doesn't know what he is doing, how thing are so unfair,

but rather believe that they have not contribute anything to the company for years.

有人在工作上找到舒服的角色,

卻也因此而不想再做任何的長進...

截員的時候看到了自己的名單,

卻還只會抱怨上頭沒長眼睛.

Some people are comfortable act like a "beneficiary" in friendships,

but never consider contribute.

Once they no longer benefit from friendship,

they only complain how other betray them without reflecting themselves for selfishness.

有人在友情裏舒服地扮演著一個受益者的角色,

卻忘了自己該有的付出.

一旦感覺到自己不再是唯所欲求的受益者之後,

就只會自哀自憐地責怪他人的背叛.

When the marriage is crowned by "comfortable"

people seems to not respect each other,

At the end, Divorce seems to be the only choice of all.

婚姻一旦冠上了舒服的名詞,

就連互相尊重都懶了.

搞到最後, 兩人臭著臉吵著要離婚...

People has over defined "comfortable"

We believe, anything relate to "comfortable" is something that relax our body and mind.

We believe if it's "comfortable', it must be the right thing to do.

人們對舒服做了過度的註解,

以致於一旦冠上舒服的名號,我們就認為那是身心得到解脫的地方.

一旦有了舒服的形容詞出現,我們就覺得那一定是對的答案.

but, we never consider this so-called "comfortable"...

it's very easy to become a excuse of laziness.

Because of this excuse, we often drown ourself in the black hold of disliking ourselves.

只是,我們卻從來沒有想過,這種所謂的"舒服"

一不小心,很容易地變質成了我們懶惰的藉口.

因為這個藉口,我們或許也會很容易地掉入厭惡自己的深淵裏.

Over comfortable is a bad habbit,

Because, there's such a fine line between comfort and laziness.

舒服一旦過度,它就成了一種惡習.

因為,舒服與懶惰,真的只有那麼一線之差.

There are lot of thing is life that require balance.

once there's more or less,

we start to fall into the unbalance of life and not knowing how to appreciate it any more.

生活中的很多事情,真的是剛剛好就好.

一旦太多或太少,

很快地便會流入自甘墮落或是自哀自憐的世界裏.

So, when you start to pick that "very comfortable' clothe to put on,

just think...

Is this a clothe that really make you feel comfortable?

or is it a clothe that will make you over feed yourself?

other than this,

Is there any "comfortable" thing in life that require your attention right now?

所以,當你拿起那件讓你覺得很舒服的衣服要穿上的時候,

你是否要思考...

這真的是一件會讓你覺得舒服的衣服,

還是一件很容易讓你變得暴飲暴食的衣服?

除此之外,生活中又什麼讓你冠上舒服的事,

是需要你去關心注意一下的時候了呢?